Why we may feel lonely...and how to work with it:

So I am sure you were expecting me to break into "show me the meaning of being lonely..." backstreet boys song with such relevance to the title of todays musings ;), however it is the Whitlam’s song  “there’s no aphrodisiac like loneliness” I start off with today. Why? Because we are social creatures who have peeled away from our roots, we have chosen isolation...but for good reason.

As sensitive people, we can tend to isolate from our communities (or want to).

This is due to our desire for control. Think of it this way, if you were born with an antenna of ultra frequency into a sound (vibration) based world, like a boombox next to a baby’s ear, could you not get into overload and overwhelm quickly? I would certainly wish for a remote to adjust sound, or some control mechanism to work with how the external environment may affect me. We seek control.

Most times we tend to try to fit in at the same time we try to tune out.

This world is chaotic. Chaos and sensitive nature can be a hard mix to work with. Chaos can be good when you see how humanity can bond through it, but over extended periods of time, and depending on how sensitive you are, management within it becomes mandatory.

Our heightened nervous systems don’t come with a manual per say. We fumble to use the remote, which many don’t even know exists. Especially in earlier days when there is less need for it or if you are surrounded by large groups and condensed communities, until it's time to change.

And all the while, whilst searching for “something” we are not sure exists, we do our best to control what we can, we get ultra busy, and totally transfixed by this modern worlds options (anyone a facebook addict?), yet internally mourn the disconnection to our group/s.

We can feel  lonely, as though we are missing something, like we are incomplete. And in time that busy-ness can become too much. Some will push people away or keep them at arms length. We may self sabotage, judge, attach and react.

We guess, we assume, we hope and pray rather than pause, collect self and honestly communicate.  We protect the sensitivities and call it strength when vulnerable is the real support we need for movement forward, out of isolation and into assistance... but gosh don’t we hate to feel that – vunerable...add to that our primary comfort in giving over receiving - yikes!

So after we tire of all the hamster like running wheel of mixed emotions within the above listed processes we sometimes chose to remove ourselves, and yes further isolate. Some get joyful in their own space, some are thrust into depression or anxiety or health issues. The cosmic design is to have you question, what is the purpose?... of feelings? of loneliness? What is isolation in my life for? Why would we be involved with it and how do we work with it? How do we "control" or manage it?

Our solution lies in connection internal first, peace within, and in this western world to usually achieve that we need practices in play such as mindfulness or meditation, self focus and downtime. Regimes that link the Mind, Body and Soul, be more in balance of self needs, so as you feel less robbed of time, and the demands of life and others in it.

So step one: Stop (running, panicking, worrying, stressing, focusing on external etc) So detach/disengage...STOP!

Step two: Find your time and activity to self connect (at least one right now) Re-focus.

Step three: Attend to social and external. Re-engage.

Step four: If get out of balance again...refer to step one.  

Of course I simplify the solutions for the purposes of this blog, however, lets aim to lessen sadness, frustration nd overwhelm in this world. Become more connected through an increased focus on self awareness and soul link needs.

Go on aim for more inner peace today. With one mind more calm, our world is already a nicer place, and YOUR world is a changed, connected and happier one for it.

That’s my thoughts for today. Cosmic Love All xoJK