I write this in memory of my spicy nature birdy-friend "McDuff", whom passed over last month... Whom has already squawked his perky presence in my psychic ears to say a "Heya Mum, still having fun"...in fact did so very quickly.

In that moment, although subtle, I paused....yes I could feel him... and hear him in my mind as clearly as I could whilst on the earth plane, and mostly I felt my heart and body respond with the joy he instilled in me every time he sang his crazy tunes! Could this be my desire and my imagination??? Of course, but what is the unseen worlds gateway but through the creative faculties of imagination, and there is nothing like emotion/desire to reverberate the cosmos inspiring communications of Spiritworld.

Plus how else do we link into our Spirit friends, feathered or other. Imagination is an etheric force for creative energy, creative energy bonds the unseen world to the Physical. We just have ahead that thinks otherwise, but our body and heart knows! It is subtle but the gateway to knowing is via belief. I believed it was possible, and as I had no physical way of faring him goodbye, I asked to have his energy with me to do so, and "all I got" was the usual love and joy he would have given me in a usual catch up.

In my psychic work I see pets often, in fact some come to me for medium-ship for pet connection alone. They appear with mannerisms from the earth plane, relevant colours and symptoms in tow,  and personality and health as we would like to remember.

We are all Spirit energy. The Spirit Realm is simply a place of non Physical... so on that principle it stands that all living form comprising of energy (which we as humans are) on earth is also in in Spirit, yes pets, animals, insects etc. We are ONE, never separate. Only your mind will consider otherwise.

In my last JK Feb newsletter I mentioned a Spirit connect exercise called Heavenly Love Letters which works for pets and humans. I am happy to gift anyone the information, simply email me with your name and postcode and I will send the newsletter to you. Meanwhile doubt not if your heart hears/sense/feels/knows then real it is. The body is our barometer (think of goose-bumps) to our sensitive relations to the non-physical!

Of course we miss them, RIP McDuff, but our heavenly Spirit gift is that love not grief (unless you chose it) is eternal, as is connection! xojK

Ever had a choice, and you just couldn’t seem to make it? Or felt confused by it?

At an instinctive level you do know what decision to make for you (heart), but may not trust (head) that outcome best serves everyone involved. We are pulled from our heart to our head, to inject doubt into a personal truth.  You usually can’t determine what to trust within your own needs, because you questioned yourself.

For a while it seemed making even basic decisions in all areas were hard for me.

Let me give an example...

My mum and I would go clothes shopping and she would get frustrated with my inability to chose. I really had no idea what I was looking for, and when I found things I liked, I continually questioned if I needed them, even way after leaving the store.

In hindsight those indecisions were me trying to break me free into establishing my own self, my needs and desires, as opposed to that of the fashion world or that of my family and friends etc. Here I was spoilt with choice, unable to decide, led by my past conditioning, because I was holding beliefs that weren’t mine to hold. I was being led by external programs conflicting with my inner needs, and my needs were asking me to find ME first! I was also window shopping my needs verses desires, establishing I could have both, but what limiting beliefs did I hold around that, what was most important to me?
Until I knew what I was looking for I would not be clear in my needs, thus indecisive. I eventually got the message, and my Mum is grateful for that too ;). I have learned that what is right for you is right for everyone – but the journey to that conclusion, or the transition into it, may impact others...and that is ok. You can discover where limits sit by pressing against them. We are all learning through it.

If you are confused perhaps ask yourself

1. What is it I need (not want necessarily)? If you don’t know this, then the confusion recipe brews. Needs are usually more core survival mechanisms we live by. Basic needs are food, water, air, shelter. In our developed western world, they tend to be more complex but just as necessary for us.
2. Have I judged my desire to have it? (Usually for the ideal of another’s thinking, that you are injecting into your need, such as keeping the peace or approval in love).  If so, your confusion recipie will bubble.  I did in my shopping example, as I could have had a whole new  wardrobe, but I didn’t know what I wanted/needed and I  worried about the cost and the effect on others etc. I needed to put me into the equation, and trust it.
3. If you have judged it you may need to convince your initial need of its validity. Why are you confusing yourself? Either step back from the judgement itself or research, get further information on how to meet your need pre making a decision. Float other ideas/alternatives. Remember your gut knows what you need, so take courage, don’t deny it. TIP: Ask your body what feels right (if it tenses with an idea, it is wrong idea at that time, try another avenue/idea).
4. Action in this case is decision. Sometimes putting aside the need to make a decision is the best decision... It may not be the time for it yet. Other times, a decision will become clear after steps 1-3 are addressed.  Either way assists confusion.
   

 
Clear as mud?! May it be clear as rain. Trust you! Trust you deserve to have your needs met, and you are responsible for that. Know change can be awkward but don’t complicate it. Nobody is perfect, and we will never get it right all the time, embrace that! Enjoy your processing, invest humour over stress into it. The more you laugh, live and love, the less chance confusion will matter anyway! xoJK

To know you is the answer. To have a human experience. To live through your heart space, to grow, to evolve, to accept. Trust more, judge and doubt less. Be happy, wise, loving, joyful. To eliminate all obstruction to your loving intent for self and others, as best possible. To liberate, be true to you, authentic, to connect with your soul through your heart, and not to try and do it all in a day!  At age 12, I asked why we are all here, and channelled one of my first songs, a song called “The Meaning of Life”, which I will print under my poems section on this website. But it basically says that the meaning of life is your choice. “..It’s what you get out of life what you put in...”

We can make a simple concept quite complex. But in each choice today, where do you place your energy and thought? Law of attraction speaks of momentum, you think positive and more positive is attracted to you, conversely think negative and...

This law should include heart space.

Our heart is our integrator, our unconditional love centre, unaffected and wise in its untainted form (ie without the mind trying to protect it).

To drop into heart space today:

• Close your eyes, relax
  
  
• Shrug your shoulders up to your ears
  
  
• As you release, drop into your heart space (if this doesen’t work for you, imagine an elevator from your head to your heart, and take it to it)
  
  
• Feel your heart centre, recognise its hum, calm, and now decide what you wish to attract.
  
  

Your soul knows you and what’s best for you this lifetime, it speaks through your heart, so take time to gift it your pure heart, fear free, access as often as you can. To know you is to love you! xoJK

LET GO! ...shed...
NOW!
We have to learn detachment in order to integrate. Integrate what? Well our planet (as many have known for a while) is evolving. The consciousness of humanity is evolving. YAY! But did you think you would skip that lesson? Not change? ( I think I had hoped so ;) wishful thought hey) Be removed from its strong tidal push pull effects?? Nay. Feminine power is tidal, like water, writhing, flowing, free, cleansing! Age of Aquarius is here in her feminine, humanitarian glory.

Complexity is ripe in life and Lord knows this year we are receiving its abundance as we try to hold to our shedding skins, which have already formed in mind thus are in process shedding like snake skins, and may elsewise trip us up if we do not pause or release. It is ok. We have asked for dream fulfilment and the universe is assisting us personally BUT in HER time. SHE is the lead dancer here, no longer us as we once were (or believed/tried to be). A wonderful parent SHE is indeed, resent it as we may in process!

So for best adjustment ease shed as you can... relationships, family, jobs, money (or concerns of), belongings (spring clean), ideas (or expectations), friendships. Let grief wash over us each and all, frustration, restlessness for the sheer unempowerment or control lack we may feel for it all... weep! bawl! scream! howl! crash! bang! rage as you need... tire, sleep, mourn, toughen, resolve... emotively, physically, mentally detach and release!  And then when necessary do it again. Like a disciplined master SHE beckons our graduation of transformational skill!

A client friend (FJ) recently told me about a recent Kryon posting - her words echo my posting of the point the Universe is making to us... I paraphrase but just say you were the worlds most incredible brain surgeon, about to do surgery, you walk in and the theatre is different, all your tools are different, only the body you work on and your skills remain familiar.... how do you react?? Walk away? Stay?? Try? Would it help to know that this is now how all theatre sets would be or not? What would assist you right now? When sheer instinct engrained in specialist life skill supports the intuitive nature of you to go forth. You really have to operate. But basics are all you have to go on right now. Choice in change may really not feel comfortable.
Surrendering, means we don't have the certainty we used to, nor are we meant to.... bring in the idea of increased presence "THE NOW".

Personally I have had transformation in all areas of my life. In only 3 months my partnership, my money base, my health, my family health, my homebase, my workplace landlord, my neighbours, & some key friendships changed.... yes I could say almost every area of my life held change. Much of it intense, stressful and emotional, but still only change. Some incredible and supportive, but still only change. And me... I am still reeling for the condensed conditioning (or unconditioning) of it all - awkwardly, fumbly, up and down adjusting... but pretty guaranteed that I too now change. So I take heart the Universe has removed my training wheels of sorts and said to me get ready to fly little Birdie, for soon the nest which held & raised you, which u shall soon have outgrown, and many landscapes and journeys beyond what you have known beckon you.

May all journeying from "the nest" of the past forward know it is Universal love supporting us as individuals and as a race. May we each achieve our changes with best heart possible and seek the sparkling horizons and new dawns drawing towards us.
As a healer friend of mine says (KH). VAST LOVE!
xoJK

So I figure when Boni Jovi "Keep the Faith" runs through my head over a week... it's time to talk TRUST!

Oh yes and are so many of us all being put through the ringer at present re that.... those in the flow of may not feel so... those out of it are having some trialling times, asking us to relinquish fears and return to "the bigger picture" concept.

My partner commented recently on how it appeared I was really looking to make changes right now (he was right still), my viewpoint at the time was things ARE changing right now (in many of my life areas). I seek to be proactive within change, it's how I get comfortable within it especially inevitable change. I have found it a trapping to be too mindful or intuitive in times like this though, only in that I have noticed how I get too far ahead or base living n past experiences. Trust to me equals surrender for the most part... (yes I'm still aiming for mastery of that).
 
Which really takes us to the idea of decisions and how we use our head/hearts/intuition within them.

Change, good or bad, can have discomfort as much as it can joy, but usually what it does have is consideration or thought.
In challenging times, even if we want to have faith, sometimes as humans, we need understanding and strategy, in order to move forward with increasing comfort. I have a wonderfully wise friend who speaks of looking at your circle of control (what is within your control), circle of influence (can you resourcefully influence a situation) and when you have considered both, the outcome is already in play - decision done for time being, so let it go and get on with it....

Last week astrologically was all about relationships - the building/repair/analysis, in fact if you ever get time to glance at the journal of northpointastrology.com, you may find life coping hints on a week to week basis. What I gleaned is we are witnessing some grander cosmic changes (esp til later April), and presently fears may be bubbling to the surface... are you handling them in FAITH - presence/surrender - or in past /future mode (doubt, uncertainty, overwhelm).

As another friend would say "peace out"!
Vast love all! xoJK

So here we are, fast approaching the transition of 2013 into 2014.  And what a year of letting go, prioritising, learning, refining, and   opportunity...at such a quick pace...

As though being squeezed through  an oscillating birth canal of 3rd, 4th and 5th dimensions...we have all been
participants (some unaware) of our earth launching into a quickening  consciousness ,a faster/quicker/cleaner vibration. As my good friend Will  outlined in his latest newsletter "Many are also saying that they don’t  seem in their bodies and feel light headed or even unwell, tight joints,  sore  bodies, headaches, depression etc and a sense of not being able to  concentrate." 

Yes, some have participated in good stead, others in displays of compression, trauma and disarray. This year has armed us with avenues to eliminate outmoded ways of thought and living... to help us untangle ourselves somewhat, face fears and limitations, and move through emotions which surround it, into self & prioritisation. There’s not been extra time to process for everyone else this year. Only so much you can do. Hard to keep your head above water yourself... 

Congrats! In some way this year, big or small, you radically changed! For the majority, may we celebrate that we are still standing amidst what ultimately has been a possibly challenging yet positive mass development year!

If it's so positive, why title the last blog of the year as grief? 

Because I have seen so many people wondering what is wrong with them this year?  What's going on in this world? When will it ease?... all these body symptoms and unaccounted for emotions and hurdles. The answers lie in the constructs of travelling
  through grief - grief for a transition of self, as the self steps into deeper ownership of, or as it re-positions itself. 
 
...Grief for a leader, grief for an ideal, for humanity, a situation, a person, a gentler earth or environment, a death of long held beliefs and patterns, death of animals, death of  relationships/ jobs/ abundance... death/change/transit has been in abundance! Grief is as natural as death is. Change is interchangeable with the concept of death. It could have felt bad or good. Regardless, it would have been tough, or demanding, with little to no down-time.

Symptoms of grief are not always obvious to people, and although there are 5 main stages of grief that have been identified: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance (http://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/),  these stages are non-linear, and certain stages can be re-visited more than once  by an individual. More often than not, you judge yourself for being in grief, which only serves to anchor you to it. 
 
Often there is a cycle of grief that is sometimes not recognised within times of change, and thus not accommodated because
  of. Greif needs time and space to process, and this has been such a rapid year that many have not found that time to calibrate.... to fully grieve....move through it. 

Many souls have transited from the physical this last year, including our beloved Nelson Mandela (personally, my last remaining grandparent). These physical transits birth infinity. I know that when a close friend and colleague of mine says she held a dream to have Nelson sit at her table for dinner (along with Dalai Lama and Johnny Depp) as ultimate dinner guests, I say now Nelson can be at all our tables. Let him feed our souls, as our regular dinner guest, with his vision of freedom and equality and hand us the task of holding the vision flame as he once did. 

Souls now return to the eternal unlimited source, and  thus enhance our humanitarian evolution even more prevalently than possible on earth... but even armed with our knowledge or faith based beliefs, we on earth here still mass process the
physical departure. It is no co-incidence the few days post Nelsons passing, that we all feel so tired and drained. Mass consciousness grieves!  

Keep in mind that, sure Luke Skywalker in Star Wars witnessed truth in eternal being-ness with the passing of OBE-Wan Kenobi, still even the firmest faith and the strongest minds can be rattled by the process of grief.  We are emotional human beings, and when especially grief is planetary, with humanity’s current  varied forms of understanding and acceptance of death, we will be affected (aware or otherwise).

So to take heart, Grief itself is non-comparative as we ALL journey it, and usually constantly in differing ways and levels of. We can learn to embrace grief as being a natural part of adjustment in Death/change (good or bad & in time), and in doing so, assist movement through it.

Grief can be a fantastic re-positioner. Yes, it can be awkward, draining and hurtful but it also always clears the way for
forward motion and positive evolution/outcome. 

So acknowledge grief, it is only a process, and one that will change naturally in due course.
Focus on Joy and Love, and know there is nothing wrong!
You are in grief, that’s ok.
We will have breakthroughs not breakdowns. Transitions not death/loss. Perceptions and choices towards love over  fear. 
 
There is eternal goodness in grief, look for it, appreciate it and be onwards bound. 

ENJOY your Chrissy and 2014 New Year transitions, may they allow you  time to ease up and process a big year prior! xoJK

So anyone out there want to chat dreams??? Happy to help you interpret any, but pls read all of below first.... :) JacquiK
 
Hi everyone, seems like my Aug quarterly  blog has become a Sept one... I can’t get over how rapidly this year has
passed so far.... OK so let’s talk dreams shall we... Who gets weird and  wonderful dreams? Who has a feeling there is more to dreaming?

Dreams can be a bit of an enigma... they can be symbolic (ie psychological, healing) and prophetic (ie actual). I have many theories on each  but today lets look at how do you determine what is what? Well knowing some symbology helps. Start with dream books and google searches and see how you  make sense of the suggestions they hold. The thing with prophetic dreams, If  you have had a few you know their prophetic evidence will occur and usually quite quickly. There are levels to prophetic dreams. Some overt and external,  others more subjective and obscure.  

I have found when it is a prophetic dream U WILL JUST KNOW. These dreams are somehow different to most... almost real or felt clearer (like a vision versus a dream). Same goes for clear astral projections (OBE) within dream state, which most of us do naturally, but some recall clearer. I find many of mine are dejav-ish, rather than external prophetic and find myself months down the track trying to recall the entire dream as it unfolds in my life (dream journals can be helpful for moments like these). For the most part we dream in the psychological and subconscious healing realms, stimulated by our environment
  and inner pathways, seeking to figure out life problems, and we use dreams as  our rehearsal studio or brainstorming board. Many times our awareness is not on our subconscious programming, so dreams tend to be weird or not meaning much...
  but most hold meaning if we explore it further...

 When looking for answers to dream meanings, what I educate in my  psychic development classes/courses, is how does the dream make you feel?  There is nothing logical or linear about dreams... so working backward ie feeling first, then traceable events in your  life or pre bed practice will usually help you in deciphering dreams. For  example I recently had a horrific and pretty brutal dream, but my feelings  within it upon waking were that of calm and objectivity. I had to ponder as to why I would feel this about a yukky and graphic  dream  which involved me in the role as “victim”??? So I explored it. Firstly, what did
the feeling mean to me:  the fact I  felt calm, meant nothing to worry about, universe has it in hand. Secondly I  broke it down to my role as victim in the dream whereby I was being forced into a situation. So I asked myself where else in my life did I feel forced into a situation?... and there came an answer for me. I have been house renovating and felt unfairly done by with  a couple of trade quotes, which were for a service I had no expertise in but needed. Hence why I felt “victim” to circumstance and necessity as it were. So I combined my subconscious feelings of powerlessness, unfairness, victim, gifted to me brutally in my dream to show it’s importance (else I would have overlooked it) with my actual feelings of calm and objectiveness, to see my
dream addressing my undercurrent feelings of inadequacy in this role with the understanding Spirit or the Universe is handling it for me – natural learning and justice, which in short time became more apparent to me. 

So here’s the sharing part... feel free to comment on the blog with your own dream experiences or FB me if you need a hand in interpreting any you  have. Meantime try to apply the working backwards dream analysis I’ve created for you above. A note that sleep deprivation can hinder dreams, heavy foods, books, TV etc and alcohol can affect them, as can pre sleep thoughts. I learned the hard way with nightmares each Wed for a while that I simply could not watch the show MEDIUM any longer. So be mindful, and yet playful and open in exploring your dreams. May you find them as amazing as I have! Sweet dreams!
xoJK